olive: in heaven with her cousins at a pumpkin patch. i hope i never forget when her hair was this color.
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
Ok. I had no idea how thin and tragic it was for boys in the sartorial department these days. After going through all our infant clothes and weeding out the stuff that was just too girly to put on a boy (borderline items made the cut. purple, for example, is fine by me on a boy), there were a few holes that needed filling. Sleepers, for example. I think newborns should wear a short sleeved onesies, a sleep gown and a swaddle at night and a long sleeved onesies with footed sleeper during the day. Taking into account umbilical stumps, diaper changes, temperature needs and the season, I think these combinations are the easiest and most comfortable for everyone involved.
Once babies start to sit up, I like soft, slim leggings that don't get in the way and onesies under long sleeved shirts or warm wool sweaters.
However, I've been looking for sleepers and onuses etc. and the amount of ugly is nearly unbearable. I find myself in the rare position of looking to new instead of my trusty thrift stores to keep his soon-to-be wardrobe bearable.
Sunday, October 12, 2014
// on breast cancer (and a way to help women fighting breast cancer during "pinktober")
// a great book for parents
// thoughts on american parenting by mothers born in other countries
"Raising a child here seems to be guided by theories. You're either doing attachment parenting or Ferberizing/Cry It Out, etc. In practice, I think everyone is a bit in-between but the books seem to encourage divisions among parents, especially moms."
Thursday, October 9, 2014
So, I love The Good Wife. I should definitely go to sleep earlier but I stay up until 10:00 every Sunday night to watch it. Last weekend I settled into the chair (ahhh, the chair) a little early while I opened some mail and turned on the TV to Madam Secretary with Tea Leoni. Remember her? Seeing Leoni strut her bad self around the White House right before watching Julianna Margulies run her badass law firm got me thinking about how great, and how old, they look.
They're both 48 (and while we're at it, Christine Baranaski who co-stars on The Good Wife is 62 for crying out loud!). Forty eight. Does anyone else remember when the air waves were populated with a whole apartment full of mid-twenties Friends? An early 20s Helen Hunt? The whole cast of Saved By The Bell? The cast of Seinfeld were in their early 30s when it first aired. That's 20-30 years younger than many of these women. That's a whole me between them.
Once I got started looking, I really had to look to find young women on TV today. Women gracefully heading towards 50, if they aren't there already, are literally everywhere.
Speaking of Seinfeld, Julia Louis Dreyfus is now 53 and has won three emmys for her starring role on VEEP. Robin Wright, a regular and formidable character on House Of Cards is 48. Lauren Graham, a major player on Parenthood, is 47. These women have proven through awards and critical acclaim and through simply staying on the air for years, that they have a draw. People like watching them on TV, so there's no reason to think these new stars will disappoint: Viola David (How To Get Away With Murder), Debra Messing (The Mysteries of Laura) and Kate Walsh (Bad Judge) are 49, 46 and 46 respectively.
The crowning glory of middle aged women on TV, I think, is the lovely Mariska Hargitay on Law and Order SVU. I cannot BELIEVE that good old Law and Order is still on at all much less still starring a (now) 50 year old Olivia Benson. Does anyone else remember when the female lead on a sitcom - even the mother of a whole family - would simply be replaced with someone younger when she got too old? Often other than having the same hair color, she didn't even resemble the original and we were all supposed to just accept that this was the same person?
Sofia Vergara and Julie Bowen, the only two adult female stars of Modern Family bring up the rear at 42 and 44 along with Lucy Liu (Elementary) at 45. But even still! 42?! Find me one 40 year old women in a starring role even 5 years ago. (Cougar Town, maybe? But even there, the entire story is about how old she is. It had to be in 2009.) In fact, veteran actors (and mothers) Keri Russell (The Americans) and Kerry Washington (Scandal) look positively babyish next to this crowd at a meager 38 and 37.
These days, Homeland's Claire Danes (35), The Blacklist's Megan Boone (31), and the epically popular Big Bang Theory's Kaley Cuoco (28) actually seem to be in the minority as the under-40 crowd of today's television lineup.
I love it. I loooove it. This particular marketplace, in which a woman's age has always been inextricably bound to her earning potential, should be the last place older women are able to command attention, maintain sex appeal and make money. It gives me hope for the rest of us. I'm so excited to see what women are doing in the workplace when my daughter is bringing home her first paycheck. And long may she work!