I can't lie, I had a preference. Doesn't everyone? Is it terrible to admit it? I loved the idea of sisters (maybe just because I didn't have one?). And I wasn't sure how I felt about raising a boy. You know girlhood because you were one. You have to consciously think about the opposite gender simply because it's not your own experience, am I right?
We went for our very first 20 week ultrasound ever and saw the baby. Our tech was super nice and generous and told us all good things as we went through. They aren't supposed to tell you anything - the radiologist is supposed to come after and give you the run down or even wait until your doctor can talk with you at an appointment, but she assured us at every body part how healthy and robust and normal the baby looked.
We felt so nervous about deciding to find out and went round and round so many times, so neither of us asked. It was a good 5 minutes into things before she rolled around to the baby's bottom and I recognized right away.
"That's…not a girl." She said. Baby #2 gave us a nice, wide view of his manhood.
Spartacus was adamant that he didn't care either way and only wanted a healthy baby. I thought I'd be sad not to have another girl, and I was at the thought of it in the months leading up, but then we saw our baby and he waved at us and did a backflip and pretty much right away I decided he was going to be the perfect next person to join our family.
There are NO BOY NAMES to be had so we have some work to do on that front, but I'm happy he's a he.
I'd love to hear about your feelings either way and what constellation your family landed in. I feel so perfectly American with our one boy, one girl, one dog. All we need is a fence!